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We are still talking about building a solid foundation for a glorious marriage. Last week, we talked about the word “Submission”. Today we are looking at the word “Love”. The Bible says wives should submit to their own husbands and husbands should love their wives.

Let us go to the scripture which enjoins men to love their wives.

Ephesians 5:25-27
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
“That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word”
“That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.”

Men are told to love because the primary responsibility of a husband to his wife is to provide spiritual covering. That is why a woman should not marry an unspiritual man who doesn’t understand this responsibility of husbands. It’s dangerous. And she will be exposed to many unnecessary spiritual battles.
Love covers.

1 Peter 4:8
“And above all things have fervent love among yourselves: for LOVE COVERS a multitude of sins.”

We see from the scripture above that one of the things love does is to cover. Men cover their wives by love. Love is the banner that He uses to cover His Church.

Song Of Solomon 2:4
“He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.”

This was describing the relationship between Christ and the Church. His banner over us is LOVE. The banner connotes victory in warfare. The first time the people of Israel fought a battle was in Exodus 17 and that was where Moses named an altar JEHOVAH NISSI which means the Lord our banner or victory banner (Ex 17:15-16). Therefore, when the Bible says men ought to love their wives it means they must provide spiritual covering and fight their spiritual battles. That is why I keep saying that you cannot divorce a glorious marriage from spiritual growth.

The second meaning of love is to cover to the extent of receiving the bullets meant for somebody. Our passage talks about the fact that Christ gave Himself for the Church. That talks of covering us to the point of dying our death. Love is seen in one’s ability to die for another.

John 15:13
“Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

Therefore, when the Bible says men ought to love their wives, it means they should lay down their lives for them. This talks about sacrificing for them and putting them first. Last week I said submission is a woman’s natural response to the love of a man. The reverse is also true. Love is a man’s natural response to a woman who shows that she needs covering by submitting. One thing about a man’s mind is he sees a vertical relationship of authority and responsibility. He submits to his boss and covers his subordinate. But he fights with his competitors. Therefore, for you to enjoy covering and love do not be a competitor.

The third meaning of Love is investment. The man must invest in the wife. Our scripture says Jesus gave Himself for the Church in order to wash her by the word and present her to Himself a glorious Church without spot and wrinkle. That was great investment. Love is investment. Understand this if you want a glorious marriage. By this we see that the man must be a teacher, coach, encourager, enhancer. He must have the ability to see the raw goodies in the wife and bring them to perfection. That is love from the Bible’s perspective. That is what Jesus did for the Church.

Actually, the Bible says as He did that for us, He was doing it for Himself because He presented the Church to Himself. So one thing we must understand is that everything we do to our wives we do to ourselves. A wife is the glory of the husband. She is your showpiece just as the Church is the showpiece of Christ. People will know what kind of a man you are by observing your wife.
Guys, this is love. If you are not prepared to do these things I have talked about, know that you are not prepared for a glorious marriage.

In ending, I will say this: God in His wisdom asked women to submit because they can only find fulfillment and flourishing by submitting to love. He asked the men to love because they will only find fulfillment and flourishing by covering, protecting, providing for and teaching their wives. Blessings.

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